"The most important kind of freedom is to be what you really are. You trade in your reality for a role. You trade in your sense for an act. You give up your ability to feel, and in exchange, put on a mask. There can't be any large-scale revolution until there is a personal revolution, on an individual level. It's got to happen inside first." - Jim Morrison
"Non-binary individuals like to be referred to as 'they' or 'them' instead of him / her." - Wikipedia
"You can become anything you want."
No. Slash that.
"You will become anything we want you to become."
Alok V Menon, is a Genderqueer / non-binary south-asian from Texas, with roots in Kerala. The second I saw him on Instagram I was hooked. I'd never before seen anyone so obnoxious and loud in their appearance as him. I'm just going to address Alok as 'him' to avoid any confusion. I then went on to read his posts on his feed, mostly about how he is treated for the way he looks. People have spat at him, cursed him, and then some. How he fights with the society on a daily basis for letting him be his most authentic self. Alok is one of the many men that inspire men that inspire me. Men who feel and look different from your standard 'Alpha male'. Men who are taking the makeup world by storm and have everyone sit up and notice these beauties create stunning art with their chosen weapons - makeup brushes! Men like Patrick Star, Manny Mua and our every own Elton Fernandez are breaking all sorts of stereotypes to be accepted as a force in the makeup industry. I say we women should see their courage and determination as strength and voice our individuality too. When was the last time you were stopped from being yourself? Exactly. Times up ladies!
I'm continuously amazed by how our world keeps evolving. Evolution is part of our history, its what makes you and I. Be it culture wise, technology wise, traditions, presidents, and even our genders. But we have been more accepting about the latter than the later. Who knew our genders even could evolve - that they go beyond what's between our legs? That men love other men and that women too love other women and this love could go beyond 'brotherly / sisterly' love? I remember studying about what makes us humans different from other animals and that's our power to think and reason. For me that's justification enough that we as a species are not meant to conform. Conformity is not in our DNA. If conformity was the case, we then wouldn't have a revolution, Hitler and Saddam Hussein would be great world leaders, take any oppressing act in our history - it wouldn't have been 'oppressing' if not for our thinking and reasoning abilities would it now?
I don't deny we're all in a way fighting to be ourselves. But its also fascinating how we're also continuously evolving. How we are not longer conforming to just the two sexes that we've been so used to. How the world is bigger than just you and I. Us. He and she. We are so much more, and isn't that something we all should be proud about? That we are not just 'fair', 'doctor', 'housewife', 'wife', 'husband', 'mother', 'father' - we are so much more and its time we learn about ourselves more, educate and open our minds and hearts to 'us'.
1. Elton Fernandez
2. Manny Mua
3. Alok Menon
4. Patrcik Starr